Timeless tips to build self confidence..

Time less Tips to Build Self Confidence:

   I believe that one of the most common wish is simply to feel more confident in different situations of life.


To build and find more confidence in yourself you have to get to know yourself better. Go exploring. Face some of your fears. Fail over and over and understand that it isn’t really that big deal. Grow stronger through such experiences and also become more internally relaxed. Figure out what really excites you by simply trying a whole bunch of stuff out.


When you know more about who you are and what you want out of your life you will have more confidence in yourself and what you can do.

What other people say or think will have less of an impact. You will trust your own opinion and ability. You become stable and centred in yourself.


 Few writers explained the word “Confidence” with few good suggestions.


“Never bend your head. Always hold it high. Look the world straight in the face.”
Helen Keller


In this article you can learn much more about becoming sure of yourself and building your inner strength and assertiveness.


1. Take action. Get it done.

The most important step in building self confidence is simply to take action. Working on something and getting it done. Sitting at home and thinking about it will just make you feel worse. To make it a bit easier, here are a three of my favourite ways


·        Be present. This will help you snap out of over thinking and just go and do whatever you want to get done. One of the simplest ways to connect with the present moment is just to keep your focus on your breathing for a minute or two.

·        Lighten up. With a lighter state of mind your tasks seems lighter and become easier to get started with. 

·        Really, really want it. Then taking action isn’t something you have to force. Taking action becomes a very natural thing. It’s something you can’t wait to do.


2. Face your fear.

“The way to develop self-confidence is to do the thing you fear.”

·        Be curious.Curiosity is filled with anticipation and enthusiasm. It opens you up. And when you are open and enthusiastic then you have more fun things to think about than focusing on your fear.

How do you become more curious?

 One way is to remember how life has become more fun in the past thanks to your curiosity and to remember all the cool things it helped you to discover and experience.

·        Realize that fear is often based on unhelpful interpretation. As humans we like to look for patterns. The problem is misjudging situations. Or through some silly miscommunication. When you get too identified with your thoughts you’ll believe anything they tell you. A more helpful practise may be to not take your thoughts too seriously. A lot of the time they and your memory are pretty inaccurate.


3. Understand in what order things happen.

Even though it may not be what people want to hear?

The thing is, when you do things you don’t just build confidence in your ability to handle different situations. But after having done whatever you fear a few to a dozen times or so you may think: “Is that it?”. You almost feel disappointed. You may even get a bit angry with yourself and wonder why you avoided doing it for so long.


4. Prepare.

“One important key to success is self-confidence. An important key to self- confidence is preparation.”
Arthur Ashe


5. Realize that being wrong will not kill you.

“Confidence comes not from always being right but from not fearing to be wrong.”
Peter T. Mcintyre


·        You learn. Instead of seeing failure as something horrible you can start to view it more as a learning experience. When standing in the middle of a failure, you can ask yourself questions like: What can I learn from this situation?


·        You gain experiences you could not get any other way. Ideally, you want to learn from other people’s mistakes and failures. That’s not always easy. You just have to fail on your own to learn a lesson and to gain an experience.


·        You become stronger. Every time you fail you become more accustomed to it. You realize more that it’s not the end of the world. You can handle things that would have been very hard to handle a few years back. You didn’t just sit on you hands doing nothing. And that took quite a bit of courage and determination.

·        Your chances of succeeding increases. Every time you fail you can learn and increase your inner strength. So every failure can make you more and more likely to succeed.

And remember, the world doesn’t revolve around you. You may like to think so. But it doesn’t. People really don’t care that much about what you do. They have their own life, problems and worries that the world revolves around them to focus on. They don’t think that much about you or are constantly monitoring what you do wrong or when you fail.

Maybe a disappointing thought. But a liberating and relieving one too because now you can let go of that worry that everyone is watching you.


6. Get to know who you are and what you want out of life.

“The world has the habit of making room for the man whose words and actions show that he knows where he is going.”
Napoleon Hill



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